The Weapon of Shame
When we put these unhealthy thoughts about sex into the minds of our young people, we are helping set them up to be harmed or do harm. If you talk about sexual activity as if it causes injury or damage, people will use it as a weapon. If you tell young women that sex devalues and harms them, then they will feel shame and guilt even for consensual sex. The burden you ask them to bear, if they are ever assaulted, is nothing short of cruel.